Sophia Loren and Me.....
“When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts.
A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.”
Italian film actress and mother -Sophia Loren.
If you’d asked me, I would have said that I had little in common with Sophia Loren! However, I am a mother of two adult children, and I have to agree with her comments about being a mother – it’s a job for life. Whoever or wherever we are, we all share this fact in common – we all have a mother. She may be a beautiful international movie star, or she may be famous only to you and your family but, she is your own mother.
Whoever she is, your mother will be an extraordinary woman, who daily managed not only her own life but those of her family. She was always able to multi-skill, long before the term became known, in that she could be preparing the family evening meal, cutting lunches for everyone for the following day, running a load of dirty school clothes through the wash, as she supervised the children’s homework from school. Running a household, often with the budget constraints caused by hungry, growing children is not a simple task, even in this century but mothers cope.
Imagine how mothersmanaged during the Great Depression, or during either of the World Wars of last century, when there were shortages of almost everything. My mother, a young WWII service wife told of having to sew her own underwear, using buttons to hold both upper and lower garments together because of a world shortage of elastic!
Not only did mothers keep all family members fed, washed, clothed and bedded each night, but in most homes, mothers have also had an unspoken set of skills that were to be taught (gently but firmly) and passed on to each child. What values and social customs did your mother instil into you and your siblings?
Probably the most important role that your mother played within your family was that of Chief Memory Officer of the family, a role that Kodak has recently identified and is now targeting with a new advertisement campaign. “We have to bring her on board and keep her for life,” said campaign manager, Ms Dance.
This year, for Mother’s Day, why not make try my top five unique gift ideas?
· Give Mum a Memory Jar, filled with questions you have always wanted to ask her and a pretty notebook for her to write down her answers. Repeat it again next year.....
· Make a collection of all of those humorous emails she has sent and put them into a collage or a notebook for her.
· Why not mount a piece of old unused piece of jewellery into a recessed picture frame for her to hand onto the wall as an object d’art? Ensure that the details of the piece are printed on the back.
· If possible, drive Mum back to a memorable place from her childhood (first home, first school, the local hall where she attended her first dance) and gently coax her to talk about the memories associated with the place. Write down the answers, take some photos and try to locate photos of how Mum remembered the special place.
· Sign Mum up for a private vault in Legacy Stories in which you could add Mum’s early stories in text, MP3 audio or video clip, with space to also add scanned photos and memorabilia. Her memories will be safe, secure, password protected and available for her at any time for all of those extra family memories as they emerge, as well as being preserved for future family generations.
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Your suggestions for a gift for our Mothers are great. I have wonderful memories of my mother. She was a very complex woman who endured a very difficult life. Perhaps you have inspired me to write a Legacy Story just about her. She died many years ago but I believe much of her lives on in me.
Thanks for your kind comments, Don and I urge you to write down your memories of your Mum as they are uniquely yours. Future family generations will be delighted to read your impressions of one of the most important and influential women in your life.
Annie you are phenomenal. Your description of mothers is so well done and your gift ideas are fantastic!! I'll pass this along for sure.
Thanks, Tom. Mum died in 1979 when I was a young mum at home with 2 small kids and rarely a day goes by that she doesn't pop into my mind. I missed the chance to ask her about her early days and, as an only child, with parents who pre-deceased her, all of her stories died with her, hence my reminders to others to ensure they gather their mum's stories before it's too late!